Being a Father
What are the tasks that will help make you a great father? These are simple, easy to follow, yet very important lessons for every father to follow.
The Two Questions
We all have a father experience, even if that experience was his absence. And that experience impacts how you father your children. Ask yourself these two questions: What kind of father are you now? And what kind of father do you want to be?
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Two Questions• Change•Tools •Responsiveness• Demandingness•Parenting Styles•Authoritative Parenting•Authoritarian Parenting•Permissive Parenting•Disengaged Parenting• Leadership•Parenting Test.
President Barack Obama said in his Father’s Day speech in 2008, “What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child—it’s the courage to raise one.” You may have heard that being a good father means spending time with your children. But what does that mean?
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Real Time•Responsiveness•Demandingness •Children’s Success•Relevant Time•Expected Time•Attentive Time •Loving Time•Simple Routines•Remove Distractions•Involvement.
Being a Role Model
Once you’re a father, you’re an instant role model—good or bad. Your kids learn everything from you: how to treat their mother, how they should be treated, how to act, how to parent, and what is important in life. The question is what kind of role model are you?
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Role Models•Starting Points •Authoritarian Parent•Permissive Parent•Disengaged Parent•Change •Priorities•Family• Career•Church•Learning•Time.
Being a Leader
To lead or not to lead, that is the question. Well, once you’re a father, you’re a leader, like it or not. And your children naturally turn to you for guidance and direction. They also look to you to keep them safe.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Leader•Listening•Expectations •Challenges• Boundaries•Seeking• Responding•Being Proactive•Safety •Security •Loved •Foundation•Challenges.
Your children need you to be their dad through thick and thin. They need you in good times and hard times. And they need you to be consistent in your actions, love, and teaching. They need you there in real life. This is the challenge all fathers face!
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Consistency•Availability•Talking •Ask Questions •Honesty•Promises•Apologies• Change•Excuses•Flexibility.
Do you love disciplining your child? No one does! But it’s an important part of raising a child so they fit into life happily and effectively. How you were disciplined as a kid likely impacts how you feel about it.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Discipline•Structure•Loving Discipline •Unified Discipline•Helpful Discipline•Boundaries•Safe Environment •Distraction•Positive Reinforcement• Encouragement•Positive Discipline •Verbal Connection•Time-Out•Removal of Privileges•LogicalConsequences •Correctional Discipline•Harmful Discipline•Abuse• Striking•Emotional Abuse• Psychological Abuse•Physical Abuse•Child Neglect •Child Sexual Abuse.
Kids need structure and discipline to help them fit into life. But how do you do that, if the discipline you experienced as a kid was unkind or maybe even unjust? Or what if you had no structure or discipline at all?
Topics Include: •Fatherhood•Practical Discipline•Discipline Toolbox•Good choices•Harmful Tools•Yelling• Shame• Hitting•Spanking•Heavy Criticism•Excessive Consequences •Proactive Tools•Melt-Down Avoidance Tool•Boundaries Tool•Modeling Tool•Time-In Tool •Reward Tool• Listening Tool• Walk-on-By Tool•Removal Tool•Additive Tool•Positive Tools •Responsive Strategies.
Respect for Mothers
No one want to hear bad things said about their moms and children are even more sensitive to hearing their mother insulted. This lesson walks the father through the weaponized triangle that hurts the children when the mother is attacked.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Respect Mothers• Insults•Practical Application •Negative Talk• Working Together•Separated•Practical Respect•Comforter •Actions.
Discipline is not all about punishment. Being a good father that disciplines correctly requires a Strong Hand and a Soft Heart and a Smart Head.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Discipline•Foundation•Why Discipline •Practicing Discipline• Reactions• Punishment•Teaching•Strong Hand •Soft Heart•Smart Head•Get Involved•Non-Action• Natural Consequences •Responsibility.
Although parenting is always unique to the child, there are some basic guidelines that will help fathers in their parenting.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Discipline•Guidelines•Good Instincts •Good Instinct Moments•Thinking Correctly•3 Do’s of Discipline•3 Don’ts of Discipline•Identify Problem•Listen•Consequences•Age Appropriate Discipline•Teaching•Life Lessons•Discipline Without Shame.
In every discipline situation a parent must Think, Teach, and Follow Through. This lesson covers practical and realistic responses to tantrums, hitting/fighting/pushing and disobedience.
Topics include: •Fatherhood•Discipline•Situational Discipline •Standard Reactions•Think•Teach•Follow Through•Reactions•Tantrums •Hitting• Fighting•Pushing•Disobedience•Punishment•Strange Behaviors.